more than friends?

I hung out with my one of bestest friends last night. he means the world to me, and he will always come first. I seek his companionship, friendship, love, trust...always. I know that in a heart beat he would drop whatever for me. and he knows that it's the same with me. last night over dinner we were discussing love and relationships and we wondered back to his LOVE. his ex. but his ONE. the mother to his child. and we came to the topic of can you ever just be friends? with your true love, or even with someone that you had such strong feelings for?

my personal opinion on this is, well I don't really know what it is. I guess for each person it differs. I know that I am having this problem right now. I've been out of a relationship for a little over a month now, and I've had my share of serious relationships, 3 years, to over a year, to 6 months....but this one, this one was different, this is the one guy that I fell IN love with. so we've done the occasional hook up, talk on the phone, etc, but it's left me in that constant wonder. so Saturday I did the final goodbye. I told him that I was ending all contact with him. that in order for me to get through this...I had to let HIM go, I had to let US go. BUT...here's my major dilemma. not only did I fall in love with him, I fell in love with his family too. I still talk to his mom on a pretty regular basis, and his sister as well. I know that I can separate me from him, but I don't know if it is possible for me to separate myself from his FAMILY. so...what does that mean? does that mean that I'm still holding on to something, or does it mean that I formed and found a new relationship, just one with the family and NOT him. does this mean he will always be in my life, do I want that, is that why I can't break loose from the bond that I've made.?